The Top 10 Things To Ask Yourself & Do Regarding Your Happiness Level
Happiness is a term with different meanings and levels, depending on who one
asks. Nobody can expect to be totally happy or content all of the time,
since some days are simply better days than others, due to circumstances,
how we feel physically, etc. But we can develop an *attitude* and do things
to make sure we have the best chance of having real satisfaction with our
life situation no matter what it is. The following questions can be asked,
and suggestions are made to boost your everyday mood and to create a healthy
attitude.
1. Do You Like And Accept Yourself?
Pretty basic, yet a big problem for many with self esteem and self worth
problems. Accept yourself as you are, and do what you can to improve in
areas you feel need some work. Avoid judgments of yourself and others. Give
yourself room for mistakes and not being *perfect* in what you do and say.
If it is a serious long standing problem, get professional help to deal with
this issue.
2. Is It Easy For You To Make Friends And To Get To Know People?
We all need friends and some sort of positive *support system.* The easier
it is for you to make friends and to reach out to others, the greater your
chances of a happier and more fulfilling life over time. While everyone
needs some private time, isolating yourself or being reclusive is *not*
healthy emotionally nor physicaly.
3. Are You Just As Happy When You See Someone Else Enjoying Success Or
Getting Attention As You Are When It Is You?
The ability to be happy and enjoy other people's successes and seeing them
in the spotlight shows we are secure and not envious nor jealous of others.
The more we appreciate and celebrate others happiness and success, the
greater our chances are of attracting success and positive things for
ourselves!
4. Is Your Home *Warm* And Do You Invite Friends To Visit You Often?
Again, having a group, even if small, of support people and friends is vital
to a life that's full and complete. Other people give us love,
companionship, laughter, a sense of connection to the Universe, and other
good things. Being social and sociable is a sign that you are enjoying life,
and it is healthy for everyone.
5. Are You Married, Or If Not, Do You Feel No Deep Frustration Over This?
Studies show that married people live longer than single people on average.
There is nothing wrong with being single at all if that is your situation or
your choice. The important thing is that whatever relationships you are in,
especially the intimate, close types, that you feel good about your part in
them, and you are not wrestling with any severe problems or concerns that
remain unresolved or unacknowledged.
6. Do You See Yourself As An Attractive And Friendly Person?
Attractive here means fun to be with, a good friend, kind, etc., and is not
referring to physical appearance. Remember, you will tend to attract the
types of people (and their personalities) as you present to others. Being
friendly to people is simply that. You don't have to be friends with a
stranger to say hello or excuse me or to open the door for them going into a
store. A friendly attitude and an attractive spirit and personality will
create happiness for you and it will attract people who are happy people
into your life.
7. Do You Feel That Most People You Meet Like You?
Again, people who meet you or know you do not have to love you or think you
are the greatest person alive. What is often an indication of how we feel
about ourselves, as well as what we are projecting to others however, is
obvious in how other people respond to us. If people avoid you, something is
wrong somewhere. If they are friendly and smile and laugh and chat with you,
that is a good sign you are sending out positive, accepting, *likeable*
signals.
8. Do You Make Converstions Easily Without Feeling Anxious Or Uncomfortable?
Assuming you are not interviewing for an important job, or talking with
someone with whom you have had a negative past experience, if you feel
confident and happy and satisfied with yourself and what you have to offer
the world, talking with people in person will not be a problem. Again, you
don't have to be very close to the person. It can even be a stranger waiting
with you for the bus. It simply shows you are feeling good about yourself
and are accepting and trusting the people with whom you meet.
9. Is It Comfortable For You To Be In The Spotlight Or To Be The Center Of
Attention?
If this is a *yes*, you are comfortable with who you are, how you look, and
what you have to offer others. You have your opinions and skills to share or
show or talk about, and you feel fine doing that. This is a sign of a secure
and self assured person.
10. Do You Have A Good Sense Of Humor, And Particularly, Are You Able To
Laugh At Yourself?
A sense of humor is one of the things people say attracts them most to other
people. It is vital to be able to laugh with others and also to be able to
laugh at yourself when you make a silly error or trip on a banana peel
(assuming you don't break any bones!). Laughter is one of the most powerful
tools we have as humans to pull ourselves from despair or anger into hope
and forgiveness. It is a crucial tool to staying physically well, and
enjoying our own life thoughout all of its ups and downs. Above all, learn
to laugh and laugh at every chance you get. Life will be much happier and
you will weather it though the good times and the bad with equal grace if
you develop and use your sense of humor in all areas of your life.
~ Dennis R. Tesdell ~
About the Author:
Dennis R. Tesdell is a personal development and self-care coach with over 20
years of experience working with personal growth and self-development
issues. He writes a weekly e-zime, "Self Care Weekly" which is read by
thousands Weekly in 10 countries. Visit his web site where subscription and
coaching Information can be found at
http://www.coachdt.com.
Have YOU enjoyed it!!!
Cheers,
Anwar Hasim
Jakarta, Indonesia
Try not to become a man of success but rather try to become a man of value.
~ Albert Einstein ~