This is so fun. Wow. Maybe we should have an MED blog or something??
Thanks for writing, Tiina. Are you in, where, Finland? Holland? Sweden?
So, Tiina says "obviously, one cannot generalize anything that would
apply to every single" human. A very interesting VABE. I'm thinking of
Glasser's work (Choice Theory) and his assertion, for starters, that
every parent worldwide shares the same identical three VABEs with regard
to their children:
1. I know what's right for you.
2. I have a right (or even sacred responsibility) to tell you what's
right for you.
3. I have a right (sacred responsibility) to punish you if you don't do
what's right for you.
We can also think of humor. Desire to be well thought of. Struggling
with parental control. And I think the list goes on. Trying to find it
out is a lot of fun. In my having lived and / or worked in Japan, Hong
Kong, Australia, Rio, San Jose, Johannesburg, Bangkok, Cairo, Bahrain,
London, Paris, Berlin, Athens, Istanbul, Toronto, Mexico City,
Monterrey, etc., I'm struck with how important we make the cultural
things out to be (and yes they are) and how most of the underlying
currents of what we value and worry about are universal. Whether I bow
or shake hands is one thing, showing respect to others is the underlying
deeper and common issue.
Then, by chance, again, (how does this happen?) I'm reading on the
airplane earlier today in Atlantic (what a great magazine) an article
called "A Boys Life" by Hanna Rosin.
http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200811/transgender-children It's about
young children who "know" at an early age that they are one gender born
into the wrong body. Fascinating case studies. And I remember asking a
group of executives in Berlin one day, what do you know for sure? And
one woman said, gender, of course, it's clear. Ooops. Actually
something like 3-5% of children are born it seems with with both sets of
equipment, or an affection for people with the same set of equipment.
It's actually not clear from looking what their gender is. These
children are born in the "normal" course of events. How should we treat
them, as youngsters and then when they grow up? As Tiina suggests
below, there seems to be a lot that is chemically wired (do we call that
hard wiring?) and as Rosin points out even if you change the chemical
inputs (by injecting puberty blockers or the "other" sex hormone),
something in the brain "knows" what one is "supposed" to be. Rosin
interviewed and followed around little boys who wanted to be girls and
little girls who wanted to be boys. They tried everything, and the
nurture thing didn't turn out so well, despite what their clergy told
them.
I wish I could start over again knowing what I "know" now. I used to
think I had so many things figured out, and every day that goes by, I
seem know less and less. But the learning new things is ever more
exciting. I can't wait to get to the next book in my stack. (Murder in
Amsterdam) And I'm loving this dialogue. I think some colleagues have
suggested things to read on the gender profile issue. In the meantime, I
try to be a good "guy" by bringing my wife breakfast in bed
occasionally, taking her out every week, and telling her in ten
different ways how cool she is. I'm trying to break the masculine
stereotype. But then I was raised by a single mom who was quite
dominant. I'm not sure how I fit into Gary's two columns. And I agree
with him and you Tiina, there are things that on average distinguish men
and women. Which I enjoy immensely. I also agree that population is a
very big issue. For me the underlying issue is how does one get another
person to be willing to re-examine a deeply held belief that they've had
since they were young? George Graen suggested this is "in place" by
twenty-one and that trying to get people to let go of them would be akin
to preaching or brainwashing. Actually, I think it's the opposite, it's
trying to unwash the brains.
I hope this is all not disturbing to list serv members--it's more
traffic than I've seen in the AOM listservs for a LONG time. And I'm
enjoying the honesty and depth of this discussion. Thanks again, Chris.
Cheers,
Jim
James G. S. Clawson
Johnson & Higgins Professor of Business Administration
Darden GSB, University of Virginia
Box 6550, Charlottesville, VA 22906
100 Darden Boulevard, Charlottesville, VA 22903 USA
Tel: 434 924 7488 Fax: 434 243 7680
Web:
http://faculty.darden.virginia.edu/clawsonj
-----Original Message-----
From: Management Education and Development Discussion
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MG-ED-DV@AOMLISTS.PACE.EDU] On Behalf Of Tiina Jokinen
Sent: Tuesday, October 21, 2008 2:31 AM
To:
MG-ED-DV@AOMLISTS.PACE.EDU
Subject: Re: What's Universally Human?
Obviously, one can not generalize anything (except having certain organs
in place) to apply every single individual on this planet.
I've lived and traveled in several countries ranging from very masculine
(by Hofstede's dimensions) to very feminine ones. Just having looked
around, watched kids on the play ground, and now observing my own kids
and current social circle, have convinced me that there may well be SOME
truth in Gary's insights. (Dualistic thinking is a problem of us
westerners - tendency to think in terms of either-or instead of
both-and, using only (too) few categories/stereotypes instead of many
that could apply simultaneously.)
At least for me, who lives in one of the most equal societies (when it
comes to gender roles), it has been a relief to think that part of the
answer might be indeed coded into our genes. I've given up some of my
idealistic expectations about gender similarity and started to think
more about what is realistic and fair to expect. We all have stereotypes
and none of us can avoid them (the storage of information in our brain
is based on categorization). They are actually helpful, but only as a
first best guesses until we learn more (about the individual/situation)
and only when we realize their presence/influence in our own thinking.
But just look around you:
- who (primarily) takes care of the children in your neighborhood
- who takes care of running the business (making decisions) vs. paying
the bills (administrative work) in family businesses
- who keeps track on comings and goings of the kids, makes sure they get
where they need to get, in time
- who keeps kontact with the neighbours and relatives
- who is (more) willing/enclined to give up high pay and career in
change for flexible working hours and meaninful work
I live in a society of equal opportunity (when it comes to gender and
education) and yet
- Why is it that most murses are women, but doctors men
- why is it that most teachers are women, but (relatively more) school
principals men
- who is more likely to sit on the coutch and watch TV while the other
is doing... what (if not sitting there, too)
I believe both genders have both characteristics (the left and right
side in Gary's presentation), but at behavioral level, their
manifestation seems to differ between genders. Women are assertive, too,
but (in average...) use different means to express it.
Jim made a good point, too. If our thinking (which guides our action) is
based on chemistry so is (I assume) the mental part of what we call our
gender (identity).
Tiina Jokinen
George Graen wrote:
>
> Dear Colleagues,
>
> I typically admire Gary's pragmatic insights, but this time I have
> questions about them. The data from psychology do not support his
> "universal" differences between males and females, although his
> differences may be clear stereotypes within his subculture.
>
> I agree with Jim that unless we experience dramatic generational
changes
> in VABEs that protect human survival on earth, our great grandchildren
> may well witness the end of days for humans. What is needed are
global
> movements to educate our future generation on our collective fate,
> unless we and they can save our deteriorating planet. The "greatest
> generation" created this threat to future generations. All educators
> must teach the folly in continuing to deny our destructive actions.
Let
> us light some candles, before we need to curse the darkness.
>
> Cheers,
>
> George Graen
> /jag
>
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